It appears that the only bedwetting stories that make the news are the ones that involve abuse or shame. The latest story involves the People Watch article that recaps an old episode of the Jersey Shore, which is going into production with the same cast and current escapades.
Kortni, 21, one of the cast members, reportedly got “blinding blitzed” and peed the bed.
The article reports this as a bedwetting antic, but sadly, it was not something Kortni did as an antic. Interesting that People Watch is okay with focusing on this so-called antic. To millions of children, teens and adults who suffer with bedwetting – it is no prank! Bedwetting is complicated.
We have seen many adults who have experienced the same confusing, mystifying experience as Kortni – wetting the bed while intoxicated, or even after just a few drinks. Since we successfully treat more adults who wet the bed, or as the article reports, pee the bed, we have a great deal of experience regarding the real cause, as well as the real fears.
Adults ranging from age 19 to 60 have revealed to us that they feel “different.” They constantly worry about disappointing everyone and the fear of discovery. Bedwetters feel different, and suffer in silence. A 32 year old female explained that her doctor knew she had breast cancer, but did not know she wet the bed. A 19 year old male just shared with us that his lifelong dream was crushed after the Navel Academy rejected his application when they discovered he still wet the bed.
Bed wetting is burdensome, stressful, frustrating and misunderstood. It attacks the self-esteem, especially when it continues into teen years.
For years parents have told us that physicians say wetting the bed is normal and common at 10 and 11 years old. Unfortunately, also being told “don’t worry, it will go away once the hormones kick in”. So, they wait for their child to hit puberty. Outgrow it at puberty, then outgrow it before graduating from high school, then college. Then what? When the bedwetting persists, everyone feels helpless and terrified.
An alarming statistic is that 63% of our patients are teenagers. 17% are adults who repeat the same story – the broken promises that they would outgrow the bedwetting.
Our clinic’s professional staff understands that bedwetting is the result of an inherited gene which creates a sleep disorder, (an abnormal pattern), making it a more serious issue than most realize. We explain to parents and adults that the worst advice anybody can receive is to wait to “outgrow” bedwetting. The sleep disorder doesn’t go away, even if the bedwetting happens to. An untreated sleep disorder can lead to sleep apnea, even for a young adult. It then becomes an even more serious issue as there is no cure for life-threatening apnea.
A healthy, proper night’s sleep lasts about eight hours, and is divided between REM (rapid-eye movement) sleep, in which the brain is as active as it is when its owner is awake, and NREM (non-REM) sleep, a deeper sleep state that predominates in the first half of the night. That healthy, cycling sleep pattern is crucial to memory retention, and to acquiring and refining our motor skills. REM sleep plays a role in our abilities to overcome negative feelings, read other people’s emotions and solve problems. Dr. Matthew Walker, author of Why We Sleep, says that we are in the midst of a “silent sleep loss epidemic” that poses “the greatest public health challenge we face in the 21st century.”
People of all ages who wet the bed, do not cycle throughout REM and non-REM sleep. They get too much of the deepest sleep and not enough REM sleep. Proper sleep is the single most effective thing we can do to reset our brain and body health each day.
“Chronic bedwetting is complex, and everyone has his or her own set of symptoms, states Michael Stallsmith, M.A., SP., and our Director of Treatment. The older child stops wanting to talk about waking up in a wet bed, and the teenager still wetting the bed often wants to ignore it. We know from over forty years of experience that the older they get, the more it bothers them. As it continues into adulthood, we sadly see a tendency to being resigned to wet sheets, and living with bedwetting for life.
Another famous person, Chicago Bears football player, Matt Bowen, talked about wetting the bed. Even though he appeared to “outgrow” his bedwetting, we know that his untreated sleep disorder was triggered by the over-excitement and nervousness he experienced about the next day’s big game. Suddenly, it was the same experience he had as an 8-year-old boy – waking up in his on urine. He talked about the challenge of trying to avoid discovery as his teammate slept nearby.
We recently posted a case study of a 42-year-old male, who we will refer to as William. He had suffered from bedwetting since childhood. William contacted our clinic after reading about our expertise in solving adult bedwetting. He commented about the relief he felt while reading our website information, and said it made so much sense regarding the inherited and unhealthy deep sleep as the cause. William claimed he never felt as if he had a proper night’s sleep. After reviewing our website, he then knew unequivocally that his heavy, deep sleep had to be the underlying issue. It was such a relief to know that there was help for him. William’s father and grandfather both experienced bedwetting into their teen years. Sadly, William’s teenage son also suffers with bedwetting.
The source of the Jersey Shore bedwetting episode is:
Dana Rose Falcone from People Watch
November 28, 2017
Find Out Which Floribama Shore Star Drunkenly Peed In Her Roommate’s Bed on the First Night.
“Kortni is quite literally the wild child of the group. At 21 years old, Kortni enters the house having never lived with anyone but her parents, so she wants to “grow up a little bit” and become “more independent.” But passing out before the crew hits the club on the first night doesn’t make quite that impression. After keeping the shots flowing at the pregame, Kortni is in bed by 9:30 p.m. — and then wakes up, hops over to Candace’s bed and uses it as a toilet.
Kortni’s bed-wetting antics quickly establish her as the housemates’ hottest mess, and the next day, she doesn’t even remember urinating on her roommate’s sheets.
“I did not pee the bed,” Kortni insists. ‘I’m being framed. I’m being freakin’ framed and I will bet money on it.’ She does, however, admit, ‘I wasn’t just blacked out, I was blacked the hell out.” But that doesn’t Kortni her from getting wild at the beach, where she flashes a group of beachgoers, chugs beers and pees in a garbage can.”
Author Barbara Moore
Barbara Moore is the Founder and CEO of the Enuresis Treatment Center. Barbara founded the bedwetting center in 1975 after she researched and developed a highly effective method to put a permanent end to bedwetting. She is committed to providing her knowledge and support to families seeking a solution that addressed the underlying cause. Barbara has been interviewed for TV and radio programs around the country, and continues to be sought out as an expert in her industry.