Help for Adults Who Never Outgrew Bedwetting

An article was posted on the about “The Adults Who Never Grow Out of Bedwetting”. This was a serious attempt to throw light on a condition suffered by millions of children and adults throughout the world as personified in Lucy Elkins poignant portrait of Mr. Larry Philips. However, the article also contained misunderstandings about the disorder that have been promulgated by generations of physicians and psychologists.”

“The Enuresis Treatment Center’s staff consulting psychologist, Dr. Lyle Danuloff, responded to the article “Bedwetting is not the result of an immature pituitary, a spastic bladder, or psychological distress. Bedwetters suffer from a deep sleep disorder that creates the brain’s failure to arouse itself sufficiently to keep the bladder sphincter muscle closed when the bladder is full and signals the brain to empty.”

“We have successfully treated thousands of enureticss of all ages all over the world including the UK. Our time tested methods approach treatment through, first investigating all symptoms produced by the deep sleep disorder. Our treatment protocol, based upon substantial clinical research and experience, addresses the underlying deep sleep disorder with a non-invasive biofeedback method.”

“Families work with the same treatment advisor throughout the course of treatment. They are instructed how to record information that is analyzed during schedule appointments and taught how to administer necessary protocol. Appointments are conducted either in the clinic or via telephone or Skype. Our highly trained treatment advisors come from the nursing and educational professions.”

“The Enuresis Treatment Center, USA, has been successfully treating bedwetting in children, teenagers and adults for over three decades. After years of treating the disorder we unequivocally know that bedwetting is singularly and only the result of a deep sleep disorder only incidentally mentioned in the article.”

“Our methods are safe and effective, so much so that we offer a money-back guarantee to our patients”

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The adults who never grow out of bedwetting
By Lucy Elkins
September 2011

Larry Phillips has a successful career as a financier, is happily married to his wife of 30 years and has a grown-up daughter and a teenage son.
Popular and well liked, he has a thriving social life. But his life has been over-shadowed by a secret: he is a chronic bed- wetter and five or six times a week wakes up to find his sheets are damp.
‘It’s a humiliating thing to happen, but I’ve had to learn to live with it,’ says Larry, 54, from near Epsom, Surrey.

There are several possible causes for adult bedwetting. A common cause is an ‘immature’ pituitary gland
‘My wife is terribly understanding about it and always has been. Yet it has caused problems for me personally and professionally over the years.

‘It put me off going to university and has shaped my choice of job.’
However, Larry has never spoken openly about his problem with his children or friends — as he admits: ‘That would be just too embarrassing.’
Bedwetting is something we associate with young children, yet while most people grow out of it in their primary school years, a significant number do not.

Last week, the actor Martin Clunes revealed he’d suffered with it into his early teens.

According to the Bladder And Bowel Foundation, one in 100 adults will be affected by bedwetting at some point during their lifetime. That’s about 500,000 people in the country.

For obvious reasons, adult bedwetting is not a subject that invites discussion — as Larry acknowledges, ‘it is a closet condition’. This means that sufferers could be missing out on treatment.
Bedwetting, or nocturnal enuresis, often runs in families. If one parent was a bedwetter as a child, the risk of having a child who wets the bed rises to 40 per cent.

There are several possible causes for adult bedwetting, says Zaki Almallah, a urologist at the bladder clinic at the BMI Priory Hospital in Birmingham. A common cause is an ‘immature’ pituitary gland.
‘This gland — in the brain — helps with the production of antidiuretic hormone,’ says Mr Almallah.
‘Normally, the gland produces more of this hormone at night and this reduces the amount of urine made, so we are not woken in the early hours of the morning by a need to use the toilet.
‘Without an adequate amount of this hormone, urine production continues as normal and so the risk of bedwetting increases.
‘This is commonly why children wet the bed, as their pituitary gland is not mature enough to produce the right level of this hormone. However, this can happen in adults, too.’
He adds that in some cases, the problem is that the bedwetter is a very deep sleeper.
‘They do not wake up even when their bladder is full,’ says Mr Almallah.

Martin Clunes suffered with bedwetting into his early teens
Another cause is an overactive bladder — this means that the bladder spasms when it is just slightly full, causing bedwetting.
‘Many adult bed-wetters will have a combination of all three of these to some extent,’ he says.

‘The longer it continues, the more entrenched it becomes as a habit.’
If bedwetting begins suddenly in adulthood, it is normally the result of another underlying condition, such as diabetes, heart failure, nerves, prostate problems, muscle problems or, in rare circumstances, a cancerous growth in the prostate or bladder.

For this reason, adult bed- wetting should always be investigated by a GP.

‘In some cases, there can be a psychological element, too,’ says Dr Helen Nightingale, who runs a clinic on the Isle of Man and is a spokeswoman for the British Psychological Society.
‘Emotional distress makes the body more tense and this may cause bedwetting among adults.’

Larry has not experienced any trauma and doctors have not found any underlying conditions. He wet the bed as a child and simply never grew out of it.

‘I was conscious I wet the bed and my younger sister didn’t, but my mum was blasé about it and didn’t take me to a doctor until I was in my late teens,’ he says.
‘It was not until I was in my 30s that mum admitted that she, too, had been a bedwetter until she was in her late teens.
‘She grew out of it and thought I would, too — which is why she didn’t take me to the doctor sooner.’
Larry was given a bedwetting alarm in his teens, which has a sensor that detects when the wearer is starting to wet the bed.

This is a standard medical treatment that works by conditioning, so the sufferer gets used to waking up when they have the urge to go.
When this didn’t help, Larry was also prescribed desmopressin. Available as a spray or tablet taken at night, this works like the antidiuretic hormone, reducing the amount of urine produced during this time.
‘This does not work for everyone, but it is successful in about 70 per cent of cases,’ says Mr Almallah.

Unfortunately, Larry wasn’t one of them.
‘When I hit 18, I started to get really worried about it and went back to the doctor. But he said there was nothing more he could do,’ says Larry.
‘I wonder if the fact that I am such as deep sleeper — I never wake during the night — is to blame and that now this is an unbreakable habit.’
Larry says his wife was very understanding the first time that it happened when they were sharing a bed.
‘I made out that it was something that occurred now and again,’ says Larry.
‘She was really nice about it.
‘But in the early stages of our marriage it became clear that it was a nightly problem.

‘When I admitted to her the full extent of the problem she was much happier, and as a result I think it made our marriage much stronger.’
Others have not always been so understanding.

‘I have to travel a bit for work and a few years ago I was attending a business conference,’ says Larry.

‘The chambermaid of the hotel I was staying in left my room door open and yelled ‘‘The man in room number 130 has wet the bed,’’ just as a group of colleagues were walking past. I was mortified.

‘I have since left that company and a former colleague later told me the news went round the office like wildfire.’

Now, he has bravely decided to talk about the condition to raise awareness of adult bedwetting and to encourage other sufferers to realise that they are not alone.

‘I have managed to make contact with about 30 other sufferers over the years, but there are a lot of people out there who tell no one what they are going through,’ he says.

Some of the people I know have lost relationships and so many opportunities in their life because of this condition.

‘I have tried to make sure my bedwetting has not ruled my life. My attitude has been: “OK, so I can’t conquer this problem — I am a life-long bed-wetter — but I am going to compensate for this by being determined and achieving as much as I can.”
And that’s what I have done.’

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I’m 18 years old and have tried all the suggestions. My parents took me to the doctor as well as keeping me from drinking anything two hours before bedtime. They also tried the alarm. Nothing worked. With the alarm I would soak the bed by the time my mom would get to me after the alarm sounded. I’ve given up.
Posted by: Anonymous on Fri, 11-14-14 – 9:06 am
I’m 18 years old and have tried all the suggestions. My parents took me to the doctor as well as keeping me from drinking anything two hours before bedtime. They also tried the alarm. Nothing worked. With the alarm I would soak the bed by the time my mom would get to me after the alarm sounded. I’ve given up.
Posted by: Anonymous on Fri, 11-14-14 – 9:08 am

28 Year Old Comments “I Had Nothing To Do With The Bed-wetting

The Enuresis Treatment Center success stories. We post success stories from children, teenagers and adults who no longer suffer from ongoing bedwetting because of our treatment care. Below is a letter from a 28 year old who was finally able to find the right help.
I found the Enuresis Treatment Center out of frustration.
I am 28 and I wet the bed, the first time until 16. Everybody said I finally got ‘control of myself” and made it happen. Believe me, we tried everything to stop the bed wetting! I had NOTHING to do with it and had no idea how it stopped.

Then I went off to college and it started again. I was embarrassed, confused, and became depressed. My parents suggested I go see a therapist and an urologist. 25 visits to the therapist and poking, prodding, tests and drugs with the urologist and still no dry bed. Both the psychologist and the urologist seemed to hint that I was doing this on purpose. I was so confused…why would anyone think that and make me think that?

So I suffered and tried my best to hide this from roommates and even my family.
One morning after waking in a cold, wet bed I went online and typed in” treatment for bedwetting.” When I went to the , it felt like a miracle. I called immediately and the sensitivity and understanding was evident from the beginning.

I called my parents, confessed to the bedwetting and told them to look up this website and call the clinic to ask more questions. I lived in Chicago, but my parents lived in Michigan and I wanted to send them in and check it out! Believe it or not, my mom drove over to the clinic, picked up a brochure and met the staff.
Yes, it took some time, 9 months, but who cares. The individual attention was amazing. My deep sleep was the problem and we worked together. I had my own treatment specialist who I felt was “on call” for me. I called her my personal coach and we met every two weeks by phone. I kept track of all the non-working parts and achieved dry…dry…dry…

I am going in to visit my parents for Christmas and I have been saving a big hug for Michelle (The best treatment coach in the world!)

Bedwetting At 25. Tired of All The Tests With No Solution Until Now.

We received an email today from a 24 year old living in England, who had viewed our You Tube interview of a 25 year old with the same problems as the writer. ” I need to put an end to this as going to my GP here in England has been absolutely useless. He continues to run test after test with so solution. What’s the point? It’s affecting all areas of my life and instead of living with it, I want to resolve it at the root of the problem. Deep sleep seems to be the main symptom that rings true. I will not wake up for anything once I’m asleep.”

His doctors reassured him he would outgrow the bedwetting. The doctor ran tests for 10 years but offered no solution. Allen said he could not afford to move out: What would roommates do if they found out about the bedwetting. The fear of discovery was huge.

Allen asked ”Please thank Jacob for being brave enough to talk about this. He gave me the courage to contact you”.
For 38 years The Enuresis Treatment Center, a bedwetting clinic that treats the world, helps adults and teenagers as well as younger children. Call today 800.379.2331

Source: Youtube – The Enuresis Treatment Center Channel

Jacob, 25, talks about his history of bedwetting with The Enuresis Treatment Center
Jacob, 25, talks about his history of bedwetting with The Enuresis Treatment Center

Deep-Sleep Bedwetting Ends for 21 Year Old


Deep-sleep bedwetting…it makes so much sense, once you understand.

I was 21 years old when I found the Enuresis Treatment Center. I felt as though a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders when i discovered their program. I had been wetting the bed  my whole life and had many discouraging life experiences and doctor visits due to bed wetting. I was told that i should outgrow the problem when i reached my young adult years. At 21, shouldn’t i have outgrown my bedwetting already? When i was a child, i wet the bed heavily. As i matured, my bed wetting dissapated but i never outgrew the problem. As i was approaching my young adult years, the problem was still lingering.
At sleepovers and overnight camps, i hid my bed wetting problem by wearing a big diaper like pull up. I also had to sleep on plastic, which was hot. I wouldn’t want any leaks on the mattress. I would choose to stay awake all night in fear of going to sleep, that i might wet the bed. I hated to loose my sleep at night and feeling very fatigued the whole week at camp and weekend of the sleepover.

I also had many failed attempts at hiding my bed wetting. I even decided to share rooms many times with my friends at sleepovers, camp, and even college. My urine would leak through the pull up, the mattress, and would leave a nasty odor in the room. After that happened, i decided that i could not deal with this problem all of my life. I have traveled a lot with my family too and the problem was getting in the way of me wanting to go on more trips. I woke up in the morning at my home, drenched in urine with a very nasty odor due to this problem. I also woke up not feeling very rested, had to do loads of laundry, and was very upset. It would come and go.
As i reached my young adulthood, i finally had enough of my problem and wanted to find a cure for good. I went to many doctor appointments in hoping to find a cure. I was prescribed DDAVP bedwetting medicine when i was a child. It helped a little, but didn’t cure the whole problem and was also expensive medication. I was told that i would grow out of it eventually when i was older.

Also, I was told this probelm was due to my deep sleep, yet, until you, it was never addressed and treated.  I went to a urologist in hoping to find a cure for my problem. I was told that nothing physically was wrong with me. No luck, nothing worked. He knew nothing about deep-sleep bedwetting.   I actually wished that something physically was wrong with me, so that they could find a cure. I stopped seeing the urologist after failed attempts to cure me. My Mother, who is a Family Nurse Practioner and a Registered Nurse was even baffled at how to help me with my bed wetting issue. I was very frustrated as nothing seemed to be wrong with me and i didn’t find a cure to my problem. It was odd that doctors found me to be medically normal as i felt there was something wrong.

I went to my computer and googled bed wetting treatment on my computer and just happened to come across the Eneuresis Treatment Center. I read stories of young adults on the webpage and felt as i was reading my own story. I called to set up a phone consultation. It was uncomfortable, at first, openly sharing my story with anyone other than my parents. As i was talking, i began to feel at ease. They told me that it was not my bladder, but my deep sleep pattern that was causing my bed wetting! It suddenly made sense. I have been a deep sleeper all of my life, i could sleep through fire alarms and really bad thunderstorms. I entered treatment for my bed wetting immediately.

I worked with bedwetting treatment specialist at the clinic, Lorie,  and can not say enough nice things about her. She had a treatment plan for me that addressed everything, the deep sleep, the bedwetting, the daytime frequencies I was experiencing.  Each appointment we learn exactly what was needed, along with encouraging words and patience with me. It was through her help and guidance that made me feel at ease. She helped me and so many good changes happened and then my deep-sleep bedwetting problem was resolved! It was such a relief and to know that i never have to deal with bed wetting ever again was so liberating! This program and the center has been such a blessing in my life!
Thanks to everyone at the Eneuresis Clinic!
A 22 year old female from upstate New York.

Bedwetting Help Sought By 28 Year Old Male – A Last Hope for Normal Life

I am a 28 year old male who has always struggled with the embarrassing secret of wetting the bed constantly at an older age. When I was younger, my parents diligently did all they could to help me overcome the problem and i can recall scores of visits to the doctors, various gizmo’s, gadgets, alarms, plans, programs, and medication, all with no long term results. In recent years, I had come to my wits end with attempting to rid myself of what I call ‘the curse’ in my life. Work trips, holidays, staying overnight at friends, families, and even girlfriends houses become a nightmare that I have tried to avoid like the plague. After seeing yet another relationship fail due to my low self esteem and fear of staying the night at a house other than my own, i decided to research the problem a little more on the internet. I was disappointed overall because most advice had already been tried and tested and failed. Doctors said I was simply 1 of those 1% in the population that had this problem and nothing could be done.

Now I have also always had a sleep problem. One that doctors have said is unusual and nothing can be done about it. One where I sleep very very deeply. So deeply in fact, that my mother used to say that the house could fall down around me and I would still sleep on. The sleeping problem has always been a separate concern for me with losing more than one job in my past due to the inability to even hear my alarm in the morning. The sleeping problem hasn’t been a great issue over the last year though as I work nights now, go straight to bed when i get home in the morning and have the luxury of plenty of time to sleep till whatever time during the day and still having time before I have to go to work. But the bedwetting remains an issue. However it has often occurred to me that the two must be related. But alas, I have not been able to to find any information on the two being related until today when I found your website. It was almost as if I had found a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Everything your website speaks about is exactly spot on!!! You absolutely do know bed wetting and it’s obvious. You clearly tackle the sleeping problem first and it is clearly what affects the bedwetting as well just as I suspected. I couldn’t believe my eyes. I now have hope and must know more!

This is my last hope for a normal life. Please help me.

Kind Regards

The Enuresis Treatment Center offers treatment for children, teenagers, and adults.