Bedwetting Shamed – Jersey Shore Bedwetting Antics – Kortni Suffers

It appears that the only bedwetting stories that make the news are the ones that involve abuse or shame. The latest story involves the People Watch article that recaps an old episode of the Jersey Shore, which is going into production with the same cast and current escapades.

Kortni, 21, one of the cast members, reportedly got “blinding blitzed” and peed the bed.

The article reports this as a bedwetting antic, but sadly, it was not something Kortni did as an antic.  Interesting that People Watch is okay with focusing on this so-called antic.   To millions of children, teens and adults who suffer with bedwetting – it is no prank!  Bedwetting is complicated.

We have seen many adults who have experienced the same confusing, mystifying experience as Kortni – wetting the bed while intoxicated, or even after just a few drinks.  Since we successfully treat more adults who wet the bed, or as the article reports, pee the bed, we have a great deal of experience regarding the real cause, as well as the real fears.

Adults ranging from age 19 to 60 have revealed to us that they feel “different.”  They constantly worry about disappointing everyone and the fear of discovery.  Bedwetters feel different, and suffer in silence.  A 32 year old female explained that her doctor knew she had breast cancer, but did not know she wet the bed.  A 19 year old male just shared with us that his lifelong dream was crushed after the Navel Academy rejected his application when they discovered he still wet the bed.

Bed wetting is burdensome, stressful, frustrating and misunderstood.  It attacks the self-esteem, especially when it continues into teen years.

For years parents have told us that physicians say wetting the bed is normal and common at 10 and 11 years old.  Unfortunately, also being told “don’t worry, it will go away once the hormones kick in”.  So, they wait for their child to hit puberty.  Outgrow it at puberty, then outgrow it before graduating from high school, then college.  Then what?  When the bedwetting persists, everyone feels helpless and terrified.

An alarming statistic is that 63% of our patients are teenagers. 17% are adults who repeat the same story – the broken promises that they would outgrow the bedwetting.

Our clinic’s professional staff understands that bedwetting is the result of an inherited gene which creates a sleep disorder, (an abnormal pattern), making it a more serious issue than most realize.  We explain to parents and adults that the worst advice anybody can receive is to wait to “outgrow” bedwetting.  The sleep disorder doesn’t go away, even if the bedwetting happens to. An untreated sleep disorder can lead to sleep apnea, even for a young adult.  It then becomes an even more serious issue as there is no cure for life-threatening apnea.

A healthy, proper night’s sleep lasts about eight hours, and is divided between REM (rapid-eye movement) sleep, in which the brain is as active as it is when its owner is awake, and NREM (non-REM) sleep, a deeper sleep state that predominates in the first half of the night.  That healthy, cycling sleep pattern is crucial to memory retention, and to acquiring and refining our motor skills.  REM sleep plays a role in our abilities to overcome negative feelings, read other people’s emotions and solve problems.  Dr. Matthew Walker, author of Why We Sleep, says that we are in the midst of a “silent sleep loss epidemic” that poses “the greatest public health challenge we face in the 21st century.”

People of all ages who wet the bed, do not cycle throughout REM and non-REM sleep.  They get too much of the deepest sleep and not enough REM sleep.  Proper sleep is the single most effective thing we can do to reset our brain and body health each day.

Chronic bedwetting is complex, and everyone has his or her own set of symptoms, states Michael Stallsmith, M.A., SP., and our Director of Treatment.  The older child stops wanting to talk about waking up in a wet bed, and the teenager still wetting the bed often wants to ignore it.  We know from over forty years of experience that the older they get, the more it bothers them.  As it continues into adulthood, we sadly see a tendency to being resigned to wet sheets, and living with bedwetting for life.

Another famous person, Chicago Bears football player, Matt Bowen, talked about wetting the bed.  Even though he appeared to “outgrow” his bedwetting, we know that his untreated sleep disorder was triggered by the over-excitement and nervousness he experienced about the next day’s big game.  Suddenly, it was the same experience he had as an 8-year-old boy – waking up in his on urine.  He talked about the challenge of trying to avoid discovery as his teammate slept nearby.

We recently posted a case study of a 42-year-old male, who we will refer to as William. He had suffered from bedwetting since childhood.  William contacted our clinic after reading about our expertise in solving adult bedwetting.  He commented about the relief he felt while reading our website information, and said it made so much sense regarding the inherited and unhealthy deep sleep as the cause.  William claimed he never felt as if he had a proper night’s sleep.  After reviewing our website, he then knew unequivocally that his heavy, deep sleep had to be the underlying issue.  It was such a relief to know that there was help for him.  William’s father and grandfather both experienced bedwetting into their teen years.  Sadly, William’s teenage son also suffers with bedwetting.

The source of the Jersey Shore bedwetting episode is:

Dana Rose Falcone from People Watch

November 28, 2017

Find Out Which Floribama Shore Star Drunkenly Peed In Her Roommate’s Bed on the First Night.

“Kortni is quite literally the wild child of the group. At 21 years old, Kortni enters the house having never lived with anyone but her parents, so she wants to “grow up a little bit” and become “more independent.” But passing out before the crew hits the club on the first night doesn’t make quite that impression. After keeping the shots flowing at the pregame, Kortni is in bed by 9:30 p.m. — and then wakes up, hops over to Candace’s bed and uses it as a toilet.

Kortni’s bed-wetting antics quickly establish her as the housemates’ hottest mess, and the next day, she doesn’t even remember urinating on her roommate’s sheets.

“I did not pee the bed,” Kortni insists. ‘I’m being framed. I’m being freakin’ framed and I will bet money on it.’  She does, however, admit, ‘I wasn’t just blacked out, I was blacked the hell out.” But that doesn’t Kortni her from getting wild at the beach, where she flashes a group of beachgoers, chugs beers and pees in a garbage can.”

Author Barbara Moore

Barbara Moore is the Founder and CEO of the Enuresis Treatment Center. Barbara founded the bedwetting center in 1975 after she researched and developed a highly effective method to put a permanent end to bedwetting.  She is committed to providing her knowledge and support to families seeking a solution that addressed the underlying cause.  Barbara has been interviewed for TV and radio programs around the country, and continues to be sought out as an expert in her industry.

Case Study of Adult Bedwetting Patient

This is a case review of a 42-year-old Caucasian male, who we will refer to as William. He was suffering from bedwetting for his entire life.  Bedwetting is also known as nocturnal enuresis and primary nocturnal enuresis.   William reached out to our clinic after reading about our expertise in solving adult bedwetting.  He commented about his experience of relief while reading our website information, and that it made so much sense.  He then knew unequivocally that his heavy, deep sleep had to be the underlying issue, not only for his years of nighttime accidents, but also for his teenage son’s bedwetting.

Family History of Bedwetting:  

William’s father experienced bedwetting into his teen years.  William’s grandfather also wet the bed as a teenager.  His father’s father experienced teenage bedwetting as well.  Now William’s son continues to experience nighttime bedwetting as a teen.  He has always wet the bed – never been dry at night.

In recent years, William’s father was diagnosed with sleep apnea, and he currently wears a c-pap device, also know as a continuous positive airway pressure therapy, to help regulate breathing.  This is not an uncommon diagnosis stemming from the sleep disorder with which we work.   Also, not uncommon is the sleepwalking and night terrors experienced by his aunt.  These are symptoms that cannot be eliminated.  The only possibility is to manage these symptoms as best as somebody can.  Since bedwetting was “outgrown” by his dad and aunt, the detriment it poses is that these other untreatable conditions can surface and affect quality of life.

We know  a new pattern of sleep is needed which will not only eliminate bedwetting; it will also cut off the possibility that the untreatable conditions will arise.   

Dr. Roger Broughton, a neurologist and foremost sleep researcher from McGill University in Montreal, is an expert upon whose findings have led to our initial protocol.   He highlighted a condition called deep-sleep bedwetting.  The sleep study conducted by Dr. Roger Broughton is titled, “Sleep Disorders: Disorders of Arousal? Enuresis, Somnambulism, and Nightmares Occur in Confusional States of Arousal, not in “Dreaming Sleep.”

The result of this study shows the differences in normal sleep patterns and those of a bedwetter.  In normal sleep, people fall slowly from Stage 1 (lightest sleep) into Stage 4 (deepest sleep), and then back to lighter stages where it’s easy to awaken.  A full cycle takes approximately 90 minutes to achieve.  A person who wets the bed falls quickly into deep sleep and stays there for longer periods.  This is the problem.  The brain is not supposed to stay in Stage Four for very long.  Cycling doesn’t take place consistently throughout the night, and the bedwetting occurs as a result.

The study’s findings concluded that all bedwetters share a deep sleep pattern. Our center has decades of clinical and anecdotal experience, which proves that the only effective treatment and cure for bedwetting is to change the pattern of sleep. Chronic bedwetting is the symptom caused by the inherited sleep disorder. This same sleep disorder causes sleep apnea, excessive snoring, sleepwalking, night terrors, insomnia, and bruxism.

This type of deep, heavy sleep produces a poor-quality sleep rather than a high-quality sleep.  The infographic below illustrates the effects of sleep deprivation:

sleep deprivation

Initial Assessment:

A thorough assessment, required for preparing for one of our programs, revealed  that he also experiences difficulty awakening in the morning, had sleepwalking episodes as a child, and was prescribed Ritalin during his late teen years to help with focusing and hyperactivity.

When we discussed the frequency that the bedwetting is occurring, William claimed he has wet the bed every week of his life.  In the past year he has seen an increase in the frequency of the bedwetting with a pattern of two to three times a week on average.  

Currently he has no medical issues other than seasonal allergies.

He has previously – during childhood and even as a teen – been examined by two pediatricians, three urologists, and a neurologist to determine a cause of the bedwetting, also know as primary nocturnal enuresis.  At no time was a physical symptom diagnosed.  Enuresis workups included:  Urinalysis, urethral obstruction scope, several ultrasounds, and an MRI.  

According to the American Pediatric Association, less than 1% of bedwetting is caused by a physical problem.

He stated that typically the physicians’ focus of bedwetting treatment was placed upon managing the bedwetting rather than a full resolution.  After a failed attempt using a bedwetting alarm, being told to wait and do nothing until puberty when he is likely to stop wetting was the direction his parents were given.   Clearly it turned out to be inaccurate (as it is with most of our patients)

He did not recall a physician providing any statistics regarding the length of time he would suffer from bedwetting, and of course he was not provided the statistics for primary enuresis: 1-30 for teenage bedwetting or 1 -100 adults who would continue wetting the bed as an adult.  

No medications were prescribed until he reached age 24.  Over time, he was placed on three different drugs, which included Ditropan and Tofranil to no avail.  His last desperate attempt was with Desmopressin.  William researched the side effects of Desmopressin when the dosage was increased to three pills each night, and when he started regularly feeling queasy and irritable, which he said was not typical.   William lives in a warm climate, is physically active, and knew how important hydration was to his well-being.   Desmopressin is meant to purposely cause dehydration in the body in an attempt to eliminate the bedwetting.  When his discovered the extensive list of side effects of Desmopressin, as well as the ineffectiveness, he stopped taking the drug immediately.

What makes drug intervention for bedwetting a completely ineffective approach is because it doesn’t remotely touch the causal factor of the core issue – sleep.   

Below is a list of some of the side effects of Desmopressin.  

Source  https://www.rxlist.com/ddavp-side-effects-drug-center.htm

Also known as DDAVP, it is an antidiuretic and anti-hemorrhagic drug used to treat bed-wetting, central cranial diabetes insipidus, and increased thirst and urination caused by head surgery or head trauma. DDAVP is also used to treat bleeding due to platelet dysfunction. DDAVP is available in generic form.

Common side effects of DDAVP include:

Headache, nausea, upset stomach or stomach pain, diarrhea, or flushing of the face (warmth, redness, tingly feeling). DDAVP can infrequently cause low levels of sodium in the blood, which can be serious and possibly life-threatening. Seek immediate medical attention if you have symptoms of low levels of sodium in the blood, including:  loss of appetite, nausea, vomiting, severe headache, muscle weakness/spasms/cramps, weight gain, unusual tiredness, dizziness, severe drowsiness, mental/mood changes (confusion, hallucinations, irritability), loss of consciousness, seizures, or slow/shallow breathing.

Physicians continued to tell him he was not trying hard enough, which he confided was scarring his self-esteem, and resigning him to the point of view that he would have to live out his life continuing to wet the bed. He expressed a deep resentment over the dismissal of this problem of wetting the bed, and was amazed and confused that it would even be intimated that he hasn’t done his part to end the stress of this condition.  

We can see more about how the problem with doctors saying bedwetting will be “outgrown” can cause psychological havoc to its victims, attacking self-esteem, increasing a sense of failure, and feeling “different”.   For many of our adult patients, they tend to live more solitary lives because they feel too uncomfortable disclosing the bedwetting to a potential mate.  Unfortunately, intimacy often becomes what they feel is an impossibility to them.   We understand it can be difficult to open up to somebody about this condition.  Many adults in our program have expressed anger or sadness or regret for having “missed out” on opportunities as a result of having to hide an extremely sensitive and often shameful part of their lives.

He was highly motivated to enter as well because his wife had recently filed for divorce.  One of the reasons involved her perspective on William’s bedwetting.  She eventually began to accuse him of deliberately wetting the sheets.   In fact, in a most unfortunate experience for William, his wife used this perspective and had her attorney introduce it publically in divorce court.   We have the utmost respect for William to ride that through, and then do whatever it would take to eliminate a problem that he thought he had no control over, and that has clearly impacted his life to the extent of being publically humiliated.  

Enuresis Treatment Center

Years of research and development dictates a two-week meeting schedule in order  to properly develop a  personalized plan.  We assign to our patients one of our staff counselors to work closely with them and facilitate their plan.  Our counseling staff includes a school psychologist, nurses, and teachers.  William was offered the opportunity to conduct his appointments via Skype.  He chose instead to have phone contact because, as he described, “the pain and embarrassment is too deep to face anyone”.

Our protocol dictates that our Director of Treatment reviews each case before a customized program is designed.  It was determined that a male bedwetting counselor would work with William throughout his program.  

Focus was placed upon ending the heavy and problematic sleep that had caused the continuation of the nocturnal enuresis.   Besides the enuresis, William presented with always feeling unrested, having difficulty focusing, being exhausted upon awakening rather than refreshed, and becoming more and more withdrawn over the years.  

We found out that William had symptoms of urgencies, a need to empty his bladder multiple times during the day, and we know this was attributed to the bedwetting itself.  It was determined that this is an actual a symptom of the bedwetting because the bladder tends to remain underdeveloped as a result of emptying regularly in the night.   We therefore developed and implemented a seriesces of targeted exercise, introduced at varies segments of his program ,develop to needed to fully support him and thus eliminate excessive needs to urinate during the day.   

In week six of our progressive and holistic approach, William began to see a change in his wetting pattern, and he was thrilled.  Of course, he would be!  For the first time in his life, he began to see progressive results leading to an end to the bedwetting.  He told his counselor that he was able to see progress and the finish line was in sight!

What is required for each appointment is pertinent data as it relates to the bladder development and the sleep intervention training.  Incremental changes are often difficult for the patient to detect, but the job of the bedwetting counselor is to identify and design the next step to maintain progress.

Enuresis Treatment Center’s sleep training protocol focuses on the relationship between the deep sleep and the disconnect with the bladder signals.  

As we know, the brain becomes less malleable as we age, and it was known that Williams program would possible take longer than it would take a child’s brain to respond.  

William’s counselor noted that he followed all directives in a timely fashion.  The Reinforcement Phase took longer, as was anticipate, but completed.  His counselor was satisfied, via current data, that his new sleep pattern had emerged.  The bladder and brain synchronized and the adult bedwetting ceased to be a problem.

William entered his teenage son into one of the Enuresis Treatment Center’s specialized teenage bedwetting programs four week after he finished his program.   
Source of graphic:
http://jonlieffmd.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/800px-Effects_of_sleep_deprivation2-300×220.png

Author Michael Stallsmith, M.A., Sp.A.

The Enuresis Treatment Center’s Director of Treatment is also a school psychologist.  Michael Stallsmith has, over the past 20 years, been involved in over 20,000 cases.  He is responsible for overseeing the counselors on our staff who work directly with the patients, and he is effective at implementing what’s needed for any challenging situations that may arise during treatment.

Michael continues his outreach with the medical community and school systems educating them about bedwetting and its relationship to the non-arousable sleep disorder.  Michael has been on staff at the Enuresis Treatment Center since 1982.

It’s Sometimes Surprising To Find Out Who Is Affected By Bedwetting

Chicago Bears Matt Bowen was affected by bedwettingWho knew even the Chicago Bears Matt Bowen was affected by bedwetting

Another tragic story of bedwetting wrapped in shame and secrecy.  We at the Enuresis Treatment Center have been hearing about these experiences for over 40 years.  We are constantly asked, “Why doesn’t our doctor know how to cure bedwetting”? and  “Why hasn’t anybody else told us it’s a sleep issue? It all makes sense now”.

The life of a child, teenager, or adult who wets the bed is filled with the fear of being “discovered”.  Naturally that makes bedwetting a closely held secret, whether it be for an adult football player or a 10 year old child. They’ll go to any length not to be “found out”.

For Chicago Bears football player, Matt Bowen, even though he appeared to “outgrow” his bedwetting, his untreated sleep disorder was triggered by the over-excitement and nervousness he experienced about the next day’s big game.  Suddenly he was eight years old again, waking up in his own pee.  What a night he had trying to avoid the discovery as his teammate laid sleeping and replenishing his energy for the game.

Our clinic’s professional staff understands that bedwetting is the result of an inherited gene which creates a sleep disorder, (an abnormal pattern), making it a more serious issue than most realize.  The worst advice anybody can receive is to wait to “outgrow” bedwetting, because the sleep disorder doesn’t go away even if the bedwetting happens to.  An untreated sleep disorder can lead to sleep apnea, even for a young adult.  Then it becomes an even more serious issue because there is no cure for life-threatening apnea.

Because our founder’s daughter wet the bed, she understands very well the pain and the secrecy of a bedwetter’s world.  With her daughter as the first patient, she developed the solution to put a permanent end to bedwetting and the sleep disorder that causes it.  So not only does that mean prevention of apnea and other symptoms, it also means an end to the fear and the stress.  Most importantly, it means the beginning of healthy and nourishing sleep each night, and being able to awaken in a dry bed every morning for the rest of your life.

Source

 

19 Year-Old Male Wets The Bed

19 year old male. He is worried about the bed wetting because it is getting so bad he is leaking through the diaper. He is going away to college in three weeks. When I ask why it has taken so long to get help he said his doctor and his parents gave up.
He felt abandon and worthless. He said the best news was when he found our website. “You were describing my sleep, my symptoms to a tee” he exclaimed.

Call the Enuresis Treatment Center now and get the help you deserve!
United States:
1-800-379-2331
International (incl. Canada):
1-248-785-1199
Our specialists have treated bed wetting children, teens, parents and adults around the world, regardless of distance.

Enuresis Treatment Center, Inc.
31700 West 13 Mile Road
Suite 208
Farmington Hills, Michigan 48334
Click the link for more information on our Bed Wetting Counseling Services for Teens.

Bed Wetting Can Re-Occur.

58 year old woman from North Carolina. She was a bed wetter as a child and stopped around 9. It has been showing up for about 5 years again. She said the deep sleep problem never went away and now the symptom is back. Doctors gave her drugs for irritable bladder. No results even tho it has been 6 months. She was so relieved to find Enuresis Treatment Center because it describe her problem to a tee.

Call the Enuresis Treatment Center now and get the help you deserve!
United States:
1-800-379-2331
International (incl. Canada):
1-248-785-1199
Our specialists have treated bed wetting children, teens, parents and adults around the world, regardless of distance.

Enuresis Treatment Center, Inc.
31700 West 13 Mile Road
Suite 208
Farmington Hills, Michigan 48334
Click the link for more information on our Bed Wetting Counseling Services.