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Teenager Bedwetting Challenges

Parents trust their pediatrician or they would look for another one! However… when it came to bedwetting, my pediatrician’s only advice was to wait.  I now wish I would have asked how long to wait or why wait or what the heck is the reason my bedwetting child turned into a teenager who continued wetting the bed.

Why did I think my pediatrician was a bedwetting expert in the first place?  Because that is what you think when you five year old continues wetting the bed. You talk about it with friends when they are late – five or six… then you stop asking the other mothers.     My 15 year-old finally demanded that I search for a bedwetting expert.  You had the only answer that made sense – he slept very heavy.  AND he wet the bed.

No wonder he would struggle to get up in the morning.  No wonder he was tired during the day.  His teachers repeatedly remarked (over the years) “if only he could work to his potential”.

At some level, I knew the sleep had something to do with his teenage bedwetting, but I never thought the heavy, sound sleep was poor sleep.  I thought he was the best sleeper of my three children!

He failed the college entrance ACT, in my opinion, even though you cannot fail this standardized test.  He did not reach the minimum score in order to even be considered for admission into the colleges we were planning to visit. One of the reasons he earned such a low score is because he had a terrible urge to go to the bathroom and had to be escorted out of the room

I told my son that some schools do not require ACT scores, as well as community colleges.  We talked about entering a community college and then transferring once he had solid grades.   Now my son was worried about solid grades and bedwetting.

I was connecting more of the poor sleep dots…

Your program was very step-by-step and definitely addressed all the sleep and bedwetting issues. I have to say, your entire staff fully realizes the impact this type of sleep – heavy, beyond awareness of anything around him and difficult to awaken in the morning – has on everyday life.

His morning behavior began to change dramatically.  Waking up dry after years and years of soaking the sheets, blankets, and mattress pad, felt like a miracle.  He had a smile

We decided to wait to retake the ACT until completing your bedwetting program.  I know you can take the ACT many times, but I did not want my son to feel like a failure over and over again.

Our pediatrician never asked anything about the bedwetting.  He never asked about history of bedwetting in the family.  He never asked what my son thought about the message to wait and don’t worry.  Don’t worry, are you kidding me.  Maybe a six year old does not worry about bedwetting, but a 16 year old.  How insensitive.

Once we were in your program and my son began to see improvements, he shared many of his feelings.  We had no idea he felt this way.  We thought that “not making a big deal of wetting the bed” meant he was fine with waiting.

Together, my son and I created this list of his “ Bedwetting Life”  thoughts and feelings.  It was shocking.    I recommend you share this list with all parents who are waiting…..

  • He told me that he felt like a failure every time he woke up smelling urine soaked sheets.
  • He never wanted to hear “don’t worry, you will outgrow the bedwetting”. He said it was insulting, as well as very confusing.
  • He wanted to punch the doctor in the face and put a diaper on him and make him wear it for tens years so he would truly understand the situation.
  • He was tired of the teachers telling him work on focusing when all he wanted to do was take a nap.
  • Why doesn’t everyone know about the sleep part of bedwetting. If that is the real cause…. Teach the entire world to explain this.
  • He was mad at us for telling him to go to sleep earlier if he was waking up tired and cranky.
  • Why would a doctor tell parents to have a nine year old help with the wet sheets. Just a little kid…. If bedwetting is not my fault, why does this feel like punishment
  • Stop asking me every morning if I wet the bed. Now I feel like a triple failure.
  • Stop telling a kid bedwetting is normal. It does not feel normal and none of my friends wet the bed.
  • Why would you make me responsible for hiding the pullup every time I went to a sleepover. That made it seem like this was shameful if you didn’t not tell the parents at the sleepover to help me.
  • I never wanted friends to come to my room because I was worried they might smell pee.
  • The word normal and common are not helpful words for someone who has no idea why they are wetting the bed.
  • Those reward star charts are cruel. It totally made me feel like I was not doing anything right.  All I did was go to sleep and wake up wet.  Nothing but darkness in between night and morning.
  • He dreaded Wellness visits because of the bedwetting. The doctor never asked about the bedwetting, but when mom brought it up and kept asking for answers… same stupid response.
  • I kept asking myself what was wrong with me. Why was I tired all the time?  Why was I wetting the bed?  Why was this suppose to be normal for a teenager???

We decided to wait a few months after completing his program before my son would prepare and retake the ACT college entrance exam.  You already know the outcome!  His scores revealed he was reaching his potential and would definitely be accepted into many colleges.  We were so relieved and I am very proud of my son.  Everyone has noticed a difference in him.

As parents, we see a young man blossoming.  He wakes up is ready for the day.  His teachers noticed such an improvement in him – alert, focused and prepared.  He makes his bed (from time to time). He invites friends to his room.  I could go on and on.

Again – thank you.

One thought on “Teenager Bedwetting Challenges”

  1. Thank you for this information. I am going to show my 15 year old son this article. It is very frustrating to hear our Pediatrician tell both of us to just wait. He told my son he wet the bed until 14. When I heard that I realized the pediatrician had nothing to offer to solve bedwetting and was really just stringing us along. It seemed like he was trying to safe face rather than tell us he did not know how to end bedwetting for a teenager.
    Glad I googled “help for teenage bedwetting” and saw this article.
    Will be calling you on Monday!

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