Feeling Guilty About Having Waited


We spoke to a mom today in New York.  Although sometimes bed wetting is a difficult subject to broach, this mom was talking to the mother of her son’s new friend from school.  Bedwetting became a topic of conversation.  She discovered they had something in common:  Two 11 year old boys who wet the bed, the frustration of having to watch their boys live with it, and their feeling helpless to do anything about it.  The other mom conveyed that her son once nervously attended a sleepover, but decided to sleep “sitting up” on the sofa in hopes of not wetting.  It didn’t work.  Bedwetters sleep too deeply no matter where or what position.  Her son was terrified when he discovered he had wet.  He turned over the sofa cushions in hopes of hiding it, but eventually the scent of the urine drew the host mom’s attention.  She asked her son about it, and in putting two and two together, the boy realized who it was and began to share about it at school.  She said it became the single most humiliating experience her son had ever endured, so much so that he asked to transfer to another school because he couldn’t bear to show up there each day.

The mom who called us was catapulted into action by that story.  She told us she felt guilty she had waited to long, but that their family physical assured her it would be over by now.  He prescribed bedwetting drugs in the meantime.  And although this mom was against pharmaceuticals, she felt as though she had to do something—anything—for her son until he outgrew it. 

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After speaking with us, she naturally became fearful of the possibility that her son’s bed wetting could continue into adulthood.  While this condition is not commonly discussed, it is more common than one might think.  As adults, it’s talked about even less often.  Adults come to us after the discover us online, after having lived for years feeling resigned that they could ever live a life free of bedwetting.  One man in our program is 44 years old, and interestingly, he believes he was 11 or 12 when he began to give up that he would stop wetting the bed.  Here he is about 25 years later, and he’s just now being cured of his condition. 

Don’t wait to seek help.  One day a child is 11, and before you know it, they are grown…and still waiting…and having to live with the stress and stigma and discomfort of wetting the bed.

We invite you to call us today – 800-379-2331.

GaileGaile Nixon,
International Director and First Patient of ETC

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