Bedwetting Solution For Older Children
Author: Lyle Danuloff, Ph.D.
Children don’t want to talk about bed wetting, they just want it to end. They do want to hear that it is not their fault, which it is not, but they don’t want to discuss their feelings about the problem. They want the parent or caregiver to solve the bedwetting and ensure they will be in a dry bed for the rest of their lives.
Bedwetting is not anyone’s fault; it is the deep sleep that prevents the brain from responding. Less than 1% of bedwetting cases are caused by a physical problem. Therefore, medical approaches do not end bedwetting. It is important to take the deep sleep seriously.
Parents naturally turn to their pediatrician seeking information regarding their child’s bedwetting problem around five or six. Often the “Medical Advice” is to wait. This is the worst advice you can get. While the child waits, the enuresis can remain. bed wetting can continue into teen years and they feel different, burdened by shame and secrecy. They can suffer with emotional pain and damage to self-esteem, especially when it continues well into adulthood.
Bedwetters suffer more then their parents or pediatrician may know. Embarrassment often leads to silence. They often live with feelings of fear of discovery, shame, low self-esteem, and feeling different.
Let’s look deeper into the emotions of someone who lives with enuresis: Individuals who wet the bed almost always feel the shame of being “different” in that they cannot do what it seems everyone else can – keep their beds dry. They can suffer from near debilitating fear of discovery, especially if they experienced daytime control problems due to the weak bladder muscle control that results from the disorder and is not the cause of it.
Bedwetters experience the low self-esteem that accompanies going to bed EACH night. An enuretic child, teenager or adult does not see his/her bed as a place of rest; instead it is a place they will fail.
Parents call us in tears because this problem was dismissed year after year as “normal” and now their teenager is still wetting the bed. College is right around the corner.
Most importantly, if a child or teenager were to outgrow bedwetting, then what remains is a deep sleep pattern that can no longer be impacted and changed. Symptoms of the sleep disorder will continue to manifest into adulthood. Deep symptoms can include sleep apnea, sleep walking, and a feeling of fatigue that results from a non-restorative sleep.
Sadly, there is No guaranteed that someone will outgrow bedwetting, in fact after the age of seven, it is less likely. 1 in 50 teenagers, as well as 3.2 million reported cases of adults still wet the bed.
This compromised sleep can also result in daytime symptoms; difficulty awakening, fatigue, memory difficulty, irritability, difficulty concentrating. These symptoms can increase as a bedwetter reaches adulthood.
Many medical professionals misinform patients when they blame a small bladder as the cause of bedwetting. It is actually a RESULT of the bedwetting. Moreover, restricting fluids causes further underdevelopment of the bladder, as well as dehydration.
Rewarding a child or teen for a dry night only brings confusion and gives everyone the impression that the child has some control over the bedwetting.
Psychological counseling has not been proven to end bedwetting. Neither has hypnosis, chiropractic care or homeopathic remedies.
Studies indicate that deep sleepers rarely hear smoke detectors and can sleep through fire/burglar alarms. Alarms alone are ineffective as the key component for ending bedwetting. Children/Teenagers report great confusion and frustration when using an alarm, because they cannot hear it in time, or at all, to make any impact on the bedwetting. A majority of the time they simply experience another failed attempt to end their bedwetting. The core of the problem is an inadequate arousal of the brain, a sleep disorder that needs to be changed to permanently end the bedwetting.
We encourage parents to discontinue the use of pull-ups, underjams or any type of cloth or adult diapers since they only keep the bed dry, not the child or teenager, as well as prolong the suffering from the bedwetting and sleep disorder. There is a false belief that older children will get discourage by wearing Pull Ups or Good Nights and be able to wake up and go to the bathroom. Our experience with tens of thousands of bedwetting cases indicates this has never occurred. If a child or teenager could wake up, they would.
The Enuresis Treatment Center – A Bedwetting Clinic, specializes in delayed bedwetting cases. We have treated thousands of children, teenagers, and adult bedwetters, tracking all related symptoms. Our extensive research validates bedwetting as a problem caused by abnormally deep sleep, which doesn’t allow for the bedwetter’s brain and bladder to connect so they can effectively respond to each other. We have a definitive cure for the bedwetting child, teenager or adult.
For 37 years, the Enuresis Treatment Center has been solving bedwetting challenges for children, teenagers, and adults who thought there was no hope. Our research and experience has validated that bedwetting can be treated without drugs or invasive surgery.
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